Facebook GRRRRR

Blogger is MY journal that has no lock.  People can read it if they want, but I am under the assumption that they know, they're opening my personal journal when they start typing www.haileylada..... into their computer.

Facebook is a little different. All 500 "friends" get to read it whether they want to or not.  You do get to choose who to be "friends" with.
 
The night of the daddy daughter dance the moms all went out for drinks and got on the Facebook topic.  We laughed about all the things that drive us crazy.  We all talked about how we think it's weird when people post notes to their babies - "to my dearest charlie, i love you so much, life is such a joy with you in it" etc.  I don't get that!  Post that on your blog so that someday when your "dearest charlie" can read... he can read it.  To me, when people post that on facebook they're just saying "I want everyone to know that I love my child, please respond to this and tell me how cute it is and please throw in a sweet compliment to my dearest charlie"  
We also talked about all the "life is good" stuff out there.  We noted how we each have friends who post that stuff often and how in most cases they're the ones who seem to be trying to convince themselves and everyone else that life is good when in reality it might not be quite how they portray it.  Now, don't get me wrong, I think there are some people out there who have great lives and post about it... for me its just not necessary. 

So... after laughing about all of this with friends and a glass of wine I came home and updated my status..
It went a little something like this...
"I'm callin BS on all the "my husband is the best ever..." "my kids are fabulous" "life is good" posts out there... Barf, barf, barf!!! And... If you want to tell your husband how perfect he is, and how proud you are of him... Why not tell him in person rather than on FB."


I have always thought of facebook as a place to share thoughts and random tidbits.  However, I have never felt the need to post how much I love life and not because I don't love it, but more so because I think it's gaggy to read.  Don't get me wrong... My life is REALLY good!  I have 3 beautiful healthy girls, my husband is extremely helpful around the house... He has an awesome job! I get to work when I want and get to stay home when I want, our finances are in order, I have a nice house,  my extended family members all have good health history, I'm naturally really good at a lot of things, and the list goes on and on... Basically... my life is pretty amazing.  Anyone who knows me or who has spent any time with me would know all of that just by observations.  I've never said or written any of that before.  I've never felt the need. (and as I re-read that I just thought to myself... gosh that sounds SO braggy and I want to put my finger towards my mouth and say "gag")  It is what it is whether I shout it from the roof tops or keep it to myself.    You won't find me with a bumper sticker on my car that says "my child is on the honor roll..."   To me, it's just weird to share all that with all 500 of your facebook friends. 
Apparently not everyone feels that way... and I think the ones who don't feel the same as me took my status personally.  I think I need a disclaimer on my blog and facebook that says "if you are easily offended stop reading now!!" 
So.. the ones who took it personal also took the opportunity to share why (and they did so on my page... I posted my feelings on my page... not theirs).    They said things like, I choose to be happy or I can't stand negative posts all the time.  For the record...  I don't really like negatives posts all the time either and I don't have to choose to be happy... I just am.  
I had lots of responses to all the posts on my status but chose "different strokes for different folks" because that's what I thought was appropriate for facebook.  Different people like different things and that is what makes the world go round.  Post your thoughts on your status and I'll post what I want on mine.   

AHHH that feels much better!  Today I am grateful for my blog, my electronic journal...a place to get my thoughts off my chest.  (how's that for a positive peppy attitude... being thankful for a blog)  :-)
I'm also grateful for my sarcastic attitude... and my husbands too.  We had fun referring to each other as "snuggles" and "sweetness" and excessively saying things like "life is good"  all weekend long.  It was really quite fun!